“Never love anyone who treats you like you’re ordinary.” Oscar Wilde
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Got yucky encrusted casserole dish??? Need some help and don't want to spend $$$?
NEED TO GET CRUSTED FOOD OFF YOUR GLASS CASSEROLE DISH? Fill your dirty dish with boiling hot water and leave it for 5 mins to loosen the caked on food. Pour away the water and squeeze some liquid dishwashing soap all over your dish. Scrunch up a BALL OF TIN FOIL you’ve used for something else (so you’re not wasting it). This way you save money and you get your dish clean without buying one of those expensive steel wool scrubbers! #Cleaning #Home #Kitchen #Dishwashing
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Your dress is beautiful / You mean this old thing??! YOU DAMAGE YOURSELF WHEN YOU CAN'T TAKE A COMPLIMENT…
YOU DAMAGE YOURSELF WHEN YOU CAN’T TAKE A COMPLIMENT…
Hello you! YES YOU! Who else am I talking to??? Have you ever done this?:
Them: Hey [Name] you look gorgeous! Oh my goodness that dress is beautiful.
Us: This thing? I got it at [Shop name] on sale for $3. It’s a stupid dress and I had to safety pin the hem… See?
Them: Ahm, well you look good in it. And your sandals look so good.
Us: Hmmmm – you obviously haven’t noticed the hard skin on my feet, it’s like stone.
Them: Well, you look great anyway.
Us: My stomach’s bloated at the moment.
Them: OK.
And then they give up. Maybe this example is extreme but have you ever said any of these types of things???
Someone says something nice to you about the way you look and instead of just saying a gracious ‘thank you’ like a sane human being… you bat their compliment away by making a list of what you think could be wrong with you.
Many of us feel uncomfortable when someone says something wonderful about our appearance, maybe we feel we don’t deserve it BUT what we don’t realize is that if we keep doing that, we’ll be chipping away at our self esteem… It’s toxic!
A study published in ‘Psychology of Women Quarterly’ (Title: “‘If You’re Fat, Then I’m Humongous!’: Frequency, Content and Impact of Fat Talk”) found that “Fat talk (women speaking negatively about the size and shape of their bodies) is a phenomenon that both reflects and creates body dissatisfaction.”
So it’s a vicious cycle… If you keep going on (even just to yourself), about how much you don’t like your appearance, everything gets worse!
And if you can accept compliments and say nice things to yourself (find nice things to say!), accepting and loving yourself where you are right now, you can avoid a whole load of heartache (including, according to studies, depression!).
AND
Think of the poor person that complimented you!!! They put themselves on the line to honestly say something nice about you and because of your $%&*ed up view of yourself, you act like what they are saying is nothing, just garbage! You have rejected them bigtime. Get a grip girl! Let’s do better. The next person that says something nice to you… Just reply, “Thank you. I really appreciate it. That makes me feel great!” and leave it at that before I have to come over to where you are and give you a piece of my mind in person 🙂 LOL.
Now, in the comments box below, please tell me 3 to 6 things that are GREAT about yourself! Don’t hold back.
Here are my 6 things:
1) “I love the way my behind jiggles when I walk…” LOL
2) “My skin is beautiful.”
3) “My teeth aren’t perfect but they’re mine and I like them! They suit my face. Tooth chips and all :-)”
4) “I am loving. I care about people.”
5) “I love dancing to soca music. Carnival. In the sunshine and with a smile on my face!”
6) “I’ve discovered I don’t have to perfect anymore and so I have a lot more fun and I’m much more honest with people. How smart am I? Heh heh!!!”
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The Lifestylista
xox
Luck? Schmuck! xox
“I’m a great believer in luck and I find the harder I work the more I have
of it.” Thomas Jefferson
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The Lifestylista
Here's HOW TO MAKE YOUR OWN SPANX Slimming Shape wear :-)
Want SPANX-like Slimming Shape Wear but don’t want to pay the big $$$? Here’s HOW TO MAKE YOUR OWN SPANX – a homemade solution…
1) Buy a pair of (strong) control top nylons. They don’t need to be the expensive kind and they can be old and raggedy LOL!
2) Use a pair of scissors to cut the legs off. If the legs start to run, use some hairspray or clear nail polish to ‘seal’ it.
3) There you have it! You’ve made yourself some Spanx in the comfort of your own home and without spending a fortune. Now you won’t have any panty lines and your tummy will be flat(ter).
Just remember YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL… RIGHT NOW! With or without this slimming underwear!
Spanx are great because they make you look trimmer BUT be aware that if you go for shapewear that’s too tight, you may cause acid reflux or an upset stomach. The point is for us to LOVE OURSELVES MORE NOT LESS. These homemade Spanx are not an excuse for you judge yourself, they are a reason for you to celebrate and to pat yourself on the back for being clever & resourceful enough to make your own shapewear!
Many of you have written me through the Facebook messaging system on www.facebook.com/Lifestylista and you asked me to get you amazing Lifestylista shapewear that’s geared specifically towards women of color (sometimes bigger thighs, behinds etc)… I’m working on it.
In the meantime, make your own!
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The Lifestylista
xox
GOT PUFFY EYES & You're not happy about it??! Let a TEABAG solve it…
Here’s how… 🙂
1) Put 2 Green Tea tea bags in hot water for 3 minutes
2) Take the tea bags out and let them cool (to speed this up, put the tea bags in the fridge)
3) Put some relaxing music on and lie down.
4) Close your eyes and put the cool tea bags on your eyes.
5) Rest for 15 minutes. Breathe deeply, take your mind off your worries and smile girl. You’re doing something good for yourself!
***BLISS***
SWELLING: Your eye puffiness will be reduced because the caffeine in the tea constricts the blood vessels on the surface of your skin and so the swelling goes down.
SKIN TIGHTENING: Thanks to the the polyphenols in green tea (‘vegetable tannins’ which act as an astringent), the skin shrinks and tightens … It’s like a mini face-lift, rejuvenator…
I’m here dancing to that 90s tune… ‘This is how we do it!’
Try this Lifestylista tip to look better, feel better and you won’t be spending a whole load of $$$ either 🙂
I’m here rooting for you!
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The Lifestylista
xox
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