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What new thing will you try today…? Kissing Yoga Couple!

February 14, 2015 By TheLifestylista

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Would you do THIS SEXY POSE? Oh my goodness! How beautiful is this?! Kissing yoga couple 🙂

Maybe it’s worth putting everything on the line for love!  Sometimes it’s soooooo worth taking a risk. Stepping out on a limb. Look at the joy that’s possible!
I love you and I’m here rooting for you!
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Man’s ELABORATE Marriage Proposal Took 2 Years To Plan & He Saved From Age 12!

January 2, 2015 By TheLifestylista

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=C97lgz5ZDnU

What do YOU think of this? This man’s ELABORATE Marriage Proposal Took 2 Years To Plan & He STARTED SAVING At Age 12! BOY OH BOY – this really was elaborate…

Here’s the story in a nutshell: When Levy was 12, he started saving and planning for what he knew would be a darned elaborate marriage proposal. He met a girl at a football game. They bumped into each other twice, and thankfully, one year later, they swapped cellnumbers at a conference.

For nearly 4 years, they dated even though they both lived on opposite sides of the country. After 4 years of dating via Skype, phone calls and endless aeroplane tickets… Levy decided it was time for him to ask Tiffany to spend the rest of her life with him…

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Funniest, craziest BREAKUP LETTER EVER! DO YOU AGREE WITH THIS BALLSY LADY’S response to her guy’s INFIDELITY?

December 29, 2014 By TheLifestylista

BreakupLetterKelsi<<<Hey Honey!  Guess who left his Facebook open on the computer AND got a message from KELSI?  yeah!  You!  🙂  But don’t worry, I didn’t break anything!  ♥ Actually, I was nice enough to package your things!  And I even invented a neat game, since I know you LIKE LOOKING for things like OTHER GIRLS!  Here’s where you’ll find your stuff!
♥ Your CLOTHES are where we first met!
♥ Your VIDEOGAMES are where we first kissed!
♥ Your LAPTOP is where we bought our first video game together!
♥ Your TV is where we went “all the way”.
♥ Everything else, including pictures of the last 2 years of our lives, is AT KELSI’S HO– — USE!

Have fun!  Oh, and while I didn’t break or damage anything, I can’t guarantee anybody else won’t find it!  Happy hunting!>>>

Boy, I feel for that girl and I hope you and I never ever find out what it’s like to feel that SAD, DISAPPOINTED, CRAZY “he did what?!” feeling…

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SO TOUCHING! I defy you NOT to cry… A Daddy’s Letter to His Little Girl (About Her Future Husband)

December 14, 2014 By TheLifestylista

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“Dear Cutie-Pie,
Recently, your mother and I were searching for an answer on Google. Halfway through entering the question, Google returned a list of the most popular searches in the world. Perched at the top of the list was “How to keep him interested.”

It startled me. I scanned several of the countless articles about how to be sexy and sexual, when to bring him a beer versus a sandwich, and the ways to make him feel smart and superior.

And I got angry.

Little One, it is not, has never been, and never will be your job to “keep him interested.”

Little One, your only task is to know deeply in your soul—in that unshakeable place that isn’t rattled by rejection and loss and ego—that you are worthy of interest. (If you can remember that everyone else is worthy of interest also, the battle of your life will be mostly won. But that is a letter for another day.)

If you can trust your worth in this way, you will be attractive in the most important sense of the word: you will attract a boy who is both capable of interest and who wants to spend his one life investing all of his interest in you.

Little One, I want to tell you about the boy who doesn’t need to be kept interested, because he knows you are interesting:

I don’t care if he puts his elbows on the dinner table—as long as he puts his eyes on the way your nose scrunches when you smile. And then can’t stop looking.

I don’t care if he can’t play a bit of golf with me—as long as he can play with the children you give him and revel in all the glorious and frustrating ways they are just like you.

I don’t care if he doesn’t follow his wallet—as long as he follows his heart and it always leads him back to you.

I don’t care if he is strong—as long as he gives you the space to exercise the strength that is in your heart.

I couldn’t care less how he votes—as long as he wakes up every morning and daily elects you to a place of honor in your home and a place of reverence in his heart.

I don’t care about the color of his skin—as long as he paints the canvas of your lives with brushstrokes of patience, and sacrifice, and vulnerability, and tenderness.

I don’t care if he was raised in this religion or that religion or no religion—as long as he was raised to value the sacred and to know every moment of life, and every moment of life with you, is deeply sacred.

In the end, Little One, if you stumble across a man like that and he and I have nothing else in common, we will have the most important thing in common:

You.

Because in the end, Little One, the only thing you should have to do to “keep him interested” is to be you.

Your eternally interested guy,

Daddy”
SOURCE:  http://drkellyflanagan.com/2013/04/17/a-daddys-letter-to-his-little-girl-about-her-future-husband/

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OMG! Woman Gets PUNCHED IN THE FACE On Live TV & Everyone Just Seems Cool With It!

December 4, 2014 By TheLifestylista

WHAT do YOU think? “OMG: Woman Gets PUNCHED IN THE FACE On Live TV & Everyone Just Seems Cool With It!”.  Can this ever be right – no matter what the provocation? There’s a Russian TV show where the person who keeps their hands on the car longest wins the car.  This girl was (as part of the game) annoying the guy beside her so he’d leave the car and lose the game.  He snapped, hit her and then the other 3 women in the game BLAMED THE GIRL WHO WAS HIT…  I know every culture has their own norms about this issue but what do you think?

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Is there anyone you love who treats you like you're ordinary? Do YOU secretly feel you're "nothing special"?

November 19, 2014 By TheLifestylista

ColorfulFlatNeverLoveTreatsOrdinaryidris-elbaIs there anyone you love who treats you like you’re ordinary? Do YOU secretly feel you’re “nothing special”? Do you keep thinking that “if things were different” (e.g. if you were “x pounds lighter” / better dressed / richer / more popular / better educated) that you would be more lovable / special?
I love you right now!
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"I sabotaged my best friend's weight loss." What do you think about THIS WOMAN'S Real Talk ADMISSION?

November 8, 2014 By TheLifestylista

Uche“I sabotaged my best friend’s weight loss.” What do you think about THIS WOMAN’S Real Talk ADMISSION?  Have you ever HAD A FRIEND like this?  Have YOU ever been the friend SABOTAGING? submitted by saboteur1212  “I’m deeply embarrassed by what I have done, although nobody else knows about what I did(apart from you). We’ll call her AJ. Ever since we were kids and teenagers AJ was always the batman in our relationship. When ever we went to parties I was known as the girl who followed AJ around. She was the pretty friend and I was the fat one. People didn’t know my name, regardless of how many I told them. They only saw her. She was always a bully to me, it was her way and when I denied her the pleasure of seeing me get her drinks and food at parties or “helping” her out with homework, she told somebody my secret. And you know how fast gossip travels around in high school. By first period she tells someone, by third period everybody knows.
I was jealous of her: looks, admirers (she rejected a lot of guys who asked her out), family, clothes, extrovert personality, and lastly weight. As I came into my late teens and early twenties I learnt to let go of the jealousy. I am no longer jealous of her. I lost the weight, I fixed my teeth, enrolled into my dream university course and focused on improving myself.

Meanwhile she has gained weight, struggled through high school and locked herself in her room (still lives with parents) with no job and no money. I was supportive of her despite everything she had done to me. I feel so guilty for doing this but – I sabotaged her weight loss.

Sometimes it was indirectly such as not giving her weight loss advice and once she asked me if a vegetarian pizza was healthy, I didn’t reply but she ate half of it anyway. She thinks walking is the only exercise she can do and will “become muscley” if she uses weights. And other direct means – she comes over to my house for meals and to hang out. I use an unholy amount of cheese in her sandwiches, and I basically give her food heavy in fat, salt and calories. Meanwhile, I eat a simply healthy meal.

I love watching her fall apart, every time she cries out and complains about not losing weight I can’t help but smile. You bullied me in high school for being overweight and imitated my awkwardness. I love it when she finally breaks down at the end of the night and runs for McDick’s and binges on burgers, fries and milkshakes. I just love watching her fall apart.

However a little part of me still reminds me that she is a human being and she deserves to move on from this moment in her life – and although she was a ravenous bitch throughout my life I love watching hers fall apart. And for that I am ashamed for taking pleasure in things that she used to do to me.” #frenemy

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"MARRIAGE ADVICE I WISH I WOULD HAVE HAD" – 20 BRILLIANT RELATIONSHIP SAVING TIPS FROM A MAN WHO JUST GOT DIVORCED!

October 24, 2014 By TheLifestylista

GeraldRogersIn the week his divorce was being finalized… Gerald Rogers decided to share the marriage advice he wished he’d had earlier! You never know what you’ve got til you’ve lost it.

Gerald: “These are lessons I learned the hard way. These are lessons I learned too late.”

If you’re married or in a relationship you care about… If you believe what you have is worth making an effort for… Listen to this man! Here’s his heartfelt post:

“MARRIAGE ADVICE I WISH I WOULD HAVE HAD:

Obviously, I’m not a #relationship expert. But there’s something about my #divorce being finalized this week that gives me perspective of things I wish I would have done different… After losing a woman that I loved, and a #marriage of almost 16 years, here’s the advice I wish I would have had…

1) Never stop #courting. Never stop dating. NEVER EVER take that woman for granted. When you asked her to marry you, you promised to be that man that would OWN HER HEART and to fiercely protect it. This is the most important and sacred treasure you will ever be entrusted with. SHE CHOSE YOU. Never forget that, and NEVER GET LAZY in your love.

2) PROTECT YOUR OWN HEART. Just as you committed to being the protector of her heart, you must guard your own with the same vigilance. Love yourself fully, love the world openly, but there is a special place in your heart where no one must enter except for your wife. Keep that space always ready to receive her and invite her in, and refuse to let anyone or anything else enter there.

3) FALL IN LOVE OVER and OVER and OVER again. You will constantly change. You’re not the same people you were when you got married, and in five years you will not be the same person you are today. Change will come, and in that you have to re-choose each other everyday. SHE DOESN’T HAVE TO STAY WITH YOU, and if you don’t take care of her heart, she may give that heart to someone else or seal you out completely, and you may never be able to get it back. Always fight to win her love just as you did when you were courting her.

4) ALWAYS SEE THE BEST in her. Focus only on what you love. What you focus on will expand. If you focus on what bugs you, all you will see is reasons to be bugged. If you focus on what you love, you can’t help but be consumed by love. Focus to the point where you can no longer see anything but love, and you know without a doubt that you are the luckiest man on earth to be have this woman as your wife.

5) IT’S NOT YOUR JOB TO CHANGE OR FIX HER… your job is to love her as she is with no expectation of her ever changing. And if she changes, love what she becomes, whether it’s what you wanted or not.

6) TAKE FULL ACCOUNTABILITY for your own emotions: It’s not your wife’s job to make you happy, and she CAN’T make you sad. You are responsible for finding your own happiness, and through that your joy will spill over into your relationship and your love.

7) NEVER BLAME your wife If YOU get frustrated or angry at her, it is only because it is triggering something inside of YOU. They are YOUR emotions, and your responsibility. When you feel those feelings take time to get present and to look within and understand what it is inside of YOU that is asking to be healed. You were attracted to this woman because she was the person best suited to trigger all of your childhood wounds in the most painful way so that you could heal them… when you heal yourself, you will no longer be triggered by her, and you will wonder why you ever were.

8) Allow your woman to JUST BE. When she’s sad or upset, it’s not your job to fix it, it’s your job to HOLD HER and let her know it’s ok. Let her know that you hear her, and that she’s important and that you are that pillar on which she can always lean. The feminine spirit is about change and emotion and like a storm her emotions will roll in and out, and as you remain strong and unjudging she will trust you and open her soul to you… DON’T RUN-AWAY WHEN SHE’S UPSET. Stand present and strong and let her know you aren’t going anywhere. Listen to what she is really saying behind the words and emotion.

9) BE SILLY… don’t take yourself so damn seriously. Laugh. And make her laugh. Laughter makes everything else easier.

10) FILL HER SOUL EVERYDAY… learn her love languages and the specific ways that she feels important and validated and CHERISHED. Ask her to create a list of 10 THINGS that make her feel loved and memorize those things and make it a priority everyday to make her feel like a queen.

11) BE PRESENT. Give her not only your time, but your focus, your attention and your soul. Do whatever it takes to clear your head so that when you are with her you are fully WITH HER. Treat her as you would your most valuable client. She is.

12) BE WILLING TO TAKE HER SEXUALLY, to carry her away in the power of your masculine presence, to consume her and devour her with your strength, and to penetrate her to the deepest levels of her soul. Let her melt into her feminine softness as she knows she can trust you fully.

13) DON’T BE AN IDIOT…. And don’t be afraid of being one either. You will make mistakes and so will she. Try not to make too big of mistakes, and learn from the ones you do make. You’re not supposed to be perfect, just try to not be too stupid.

14) GIVE HER SPACE… The woman is so good at giving and giving, and sometimes she will need to be reminded to take time to nurture herself. Sometimes she will need to fly from your branches to go and find what feeds her soul, and if you give her that space she will come back with new songs to sing…. (okay, getting a little too poetic here, but you get the point. Tell her to take time for herself, ESPECIALLY after you have kids. She needs that space to renew and get re-centered, and to find herself after she gets lost in serving you, the kids and the world.)

15) BE VULNERABLE… you don’t have to have it all together. Be willing to share your fears and feelings, and quick to acknowledge your mistakes.

16) BE FULLY TRANSPARENT. If you want to have trust you must be willing to share EVERYTHING… Especially those things you don’t want to share. It takes courage to fully love, to fully open your heart and let her in when you don’t know i she will like what she finds… Part of that courage is allowing her to love you completely, your darkness as well as your light. DROP THE MASK… If you feel like you need to wear a mask around her, and show up perfect all the time, you will never experience the full dimension of what love can be.

17) NEVER STOP GROWING TOGETHER… The stagnant pond breeds malaria, the flowing stream is always fresh and cool. Atrophy is the natural process when you stop working a muscle, just as it is if you stop working on your relationship. Find common goals, dreams and visions to work towards.

18) DON’T WORRY ABOUT MONEY. Money is a game, find ways to work together as a team to win it. It never helps when teammates fight. Figure out ways to leverage both persons strength to win.

19) FORGIVE IMMEDIATELY and focus on the future rather than carrying weight from the past. Don’t let your history hold you hostage. Holding onto past mistakes that either you or she makes, is like a heavy anchor to your marriage and will hold you back. FORGIVENESS IS FREEDOM. Cut the anchor loose and always choose love.

20) ALWAYS CHOOSE LOVE. ALWAYS CHOOSE LOVE. ALWAYS CHOOSE LOVE. In the end, this is the only advice you need. If this is the guiding principle through which all your choices is governed, there is nothing that will threaten the happiness of your marriage. Love will always endure.

In the end MARRIAGE isn’t about Happily ever after. It’s about work. And a commitment to grow together and a willingness to continually invest in creating something that can endure eternity. Through that work, the happiness will come.

Marriage is life, and it will bring ups and downs. Embracing all of the cycles and learning to learn from and love each experience will bring the strength and perspective to keep building, one brick at a time.

These are lessons I learned the hard way. These are lessons I learned too late.

But these are lessons I am learning and committed in carrying forward. Truth is, I LOVED being married, and in time, I will get married again, and when I do, I will build it with a foundation that will endure any storm and any amount of time.

If you are reading this and find wisdom in my pain, share it those those young husbands whose hearts are still full of hope, and with those couples you may know who may have forgotten how to love. One of those men may be like I was, and in these hard earned lessons perhaps something will awaken in him and he will learn to be the man his lady has been waiting for.

The woman that told him ‘I do’, and trusted her life with him, has been waiting for this man to step up.

If you are reading this and your marriage isn’t what you want it to be, take 100% responsibility for YOUR PART in marriage, regardless of where your spouse is at, and commit to applying these lessons while there is time.

MEN- THIS IS YOUR CHARGE : Commit to being an EPIC LOVER. There is no greater challenge, and no greater prize. Your woman deserves that from you.

Be the type of husband your wife can’t help but brag about.”

Gerald Rogers’ original Facebook post:
https://www.facebook.com/photo.php?fbid=10151735776813486&set=a.81166678485.79418.696628485&type=1&theater

I’m here rooting for you!
love,
Kara – The Lifestylista
xox
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