Self Help

ESSENTIAL advice… What to do when the past hurts :-)

June 8, 2014 By TheLifestylista

HAPPY SUNDAY! VOTE “yes” or “no”… “Sure the past hurts but you can either run from it or learn from it.” What in your past do you need to learn from? What are you running from?
I’m here rooting for you!
love,
Kara – The Lifestylista
xox
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WHAT ARE THE EXC– — USES YOU TELL YOURSELF for not having the body, the energy, the life you want?

June 7, 2014 By TheLifestylista

TELL THE TRUTH! COMMENT BELOW & VOTE ‘yes’ or ‘no’…
WHAT ARE THE EXC– — USES YOU TELL YOURSELF for not having the body, the energy, the life you want? SHARE BELOW! I love you so I’m going to bare my soul… My secret excuses were: 1) I NEED TO BE WEALTHY TO BE SLIM – personal chef, menus planned by others etc
2) my GENETICS – everyone in my family is big (the women at least)
3) maybe I have a SLOW THYROID… (I didn’t even get it checked by a doctor I just added it to my excuse bank!)
4) I DON’T HAVE TIME to get healthy -“I mean you have to research, learn new things. Too complicated and time consuming…”
5) secret excuse: if I change the way I live (and the way i look) I WILL BE THE ODD ONE OUT out with my friends and they won’t like me anymore
6) another secret excuse: BEING BIG IS WHO I AM. My identity. Who will I be if I am slim? It’s just “not me”.
7) I (incorrectly) assumed the only way to be slim for life was to live a life of sacrifice and deprivation. Now I know the opposite is true!
GO TO http://bit.ly/10dayfitness to take the first step to losing the weight and keeping it off… A free, fun 10 day challenge. Go on!!! You can do it!
I love you
love,
Kara
The Lifestylista
xox
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YOU HURT YOURSELF (& others) WHEN YOU CAN’T TAKE A COMPLIMENT… “‘If You’re Fat, Then I’m Humongous!’: Frequency, Content and Impact of Fat Talk”

June 5, 2014 By TheLifestylista

VOTE “yes” or “no” below! YOU HURT YOURSELF (& others) WHEN YOU CAN’T TAKE A COMPLIMENT… Have you ever been “guilty” of this? Be honest girl 🙂
THEM: Hey [Name] you look gorgeous! Oh my goodness that dress is beautiful.
US: This thing? I got it at [Shop name] on sale for $3. It’s a stupid dress and I had to safety pin the hem… See?
Them: Ahm, well you look good in it. And your sandals look so good.
US: Hmmmm – you obviously haven’t noticed the hard skin on my feet, it’s like stone.
Them: Well, you look great anyway.
US: My stomach’s bloated at the moment.
THEM: OK.
And then they give up.
— Maybe this example is extreme but have you ever said any of these types of things???
Someone says something nice to you about the way you look and instead of just saying a gracious ‘thank you’ like a sane human being… you bat their compliment away by making a list of what you think could be wrong with you.
Many of us feel uncomfortable when someone says something wonderful about our appearance, maybe we feel we don’t deserve it BUT what we don’t realize is that if we keep doing that, we’ll be chipping away at our self esteem… It’s toxic!

— A study published in ‘Psychology of Women Quarterly’ (Title: “‘If You’re Fat, Then I’m Humongous!’: Frequency, Content and Impact of Fat Talk”) found that “Fat talk (women speaking negatively about the size and shape of their bodies) is a phenomenon that both reflects and creates body dissatisfaction.”
So it’s a vicious cycle… If you keep going on (even just to yourself), about how much you don’t like your appearance, everything gets worse!
And if you can accept compliments and say nice things to yourself (find nice things to say!), accepting and loving yourself where you are right now, you can avoid a whole load of heartache (including, according to studies, depression!).
AND

— Think of the poor person that complimented you!!! They put themselves on the line to honestly say something nice about you and because of your $%&*ed up view of yourself, you act like what they are saying is nothing, just garbage! You have rejected them bigtime. Get a grip girl! Let’s do better. The next person that says something nice to you… Just reply, “Thank you. I really appreciate it. That makes me feel great!” and leave it at that before I have to come over to where you are and give you a piece of my mind in person 🙂 LOL.
Now, in the comments box below, please tell me 3 to 6 things that are GREAT about yourself! Don’t hold back.
Here are my 6 things:
1) “I love the way my behind jiggles when I walk…” LOL
2) “My skin is beautiful.”
3) “My teeth aren’t perfect but they’re mine and I like them! They suit my face. Tooth chips and all 🙂 ”
4) “I am loving. I care about people.”
5) “I love dancing to soca music. Carnival. In the sunshine and with a smile on my face!”
6) “I’ve discovered I don’t have to perfect anymore and so I have a lot more fun and I’m much more honest with people. It feels good – makes me feel like dancing! Heh heh!!!”
I love you and I’m here rooting for you.
Kara
The Lifestylista
xox
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'And Still I Rise…' This Maya Angelou poem, recited by her, may make you LAUGH and CRY!

May 29, 2014 By TheLifestylista

Want to LAUGH & CRY?! Listen to #MayaAngelou RECITE this poem ‘And Still I Rise’. R.I.P. Auntie Maya you gave us so much!
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‘Still I Rise’ by Maya Angelou

You may write me down in history
With your bitter, twisted lies,
You may trod me in the very dirt
But still, like dust, I’ll rise.

Does my sassiness upset you?
Why are you beset with gloom?
‘Cause I walk like I’ve got oil wells
Pumping in my living room.

Just like moons and like suns,
With the certainty of tides,
Just like hopes springing high,
Still I’ll rise.

Did you want to see me broken?
Bowed head and lowered eyes?
Shoulders falling down like teardrops.
Weakened by my soulful cries.

Does my haughtiness offend you?
Don’t you take it awful hard
‘Cause I laugh like I’ve got gold mines
Diggin’ in my own back yard.

You may shoot me with your words,
You may cut me with your eyes,
You may kill me with your hatefulness,
But still, like air, I’ll rise.

Does my sexiness upset you?
Does it come as a surprise
That I dance like I’ve got diamonds
At the meeting of my thighs?

Out of the huts of history’s shame
I rise
Up from a past that’s rooted in pain
I rise
I’m a black ocean, leaping and wide,
Welling and swelling I bear in the tide.
Leaving behind nights of terror and fear
I rise
Into a daybreak that’s wondrously clear
I rise
Bringing the gifts that my ancestors gave,
I am the dream and the hope of the slave.
I rise
I rise
I rise.

I love you,
Kara
The Lifestylista ®
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Here is a GREAT lesson from a GREAT woman… Read this! R.I.P. Maya!

May 29, 2014 By TheLifestylista

“A bird doesn’t sing because it has an answer. It sings because it has a song.” GOOD NIGHT sweet Auntie MAYA ANGELOU! REST IN PEACE girl, you have given us so much! We love you and we miss you. Truly. You opened my eyes and my heart with ‘I Know Why The Caged Bird Sings’ and continued from there. Not just with your written words but with who you are. Beautiful.

Where in YOUR life do you have a song that you need to sing whether or not an answer comes? SING just because YOU have a song. We need to hear YOUR UNIQUE VOICE!

How you define winning defines how you live…

May 27, 2014 By TheLifestylista

This Kenyan champion slows down to share water with a Chinese runner who is desperately dehydrated. Because she did this, she came 2nd and she not only lost the gold medal but also the $10,000 winner’s prize… In your opinion did she win or lose?

“There are different ways to win in life.” Where in your life have you won recently?
I love you,
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