DEAR LIFESTYLISTA: “Hi der, my kid sis has a body image disturbance problem n it hurts me so much to see her cry abt it.though am a nurse i cant help..she is got da coca cola shape n very pretty buh she has big thighs which rub as she walks thus causing her inner thighs to be dark…she loves to wear shorts buh cant wear them cos it just keeps pushn up as she walks… wat do you advice pls help as soon as possible…”
LADIES – PLEASE GIVE YOUR SUPPORT TO OUR LIFESTYLISTA FRIEND [NAME DELETED]. WHAT ARE YOUR THOUGHTS? WHAT HELP CAN YOU GIVE FROM YOUR OWN LIFE EXPERIENCE?
Here’s the answer I gave:
I am so, so sorry to hear about your kid sister and what she’s going through. I can hear it’s tough for you too. Truth is, i sounds as if what your sister needs more than anything is someone to talk to. I have the same thing with my thighs rubbing together and shorts! ( and so do lots of A list celebs and they have it erased in photoshop for magazine shoots etc. – tell your sis that!) The only thing that fixes that is becoming much thinner and for those of us with naturally bigger thighs (even when we are slim) this is something that we often live with.
Truly, the advice I’d give is to see if you can help your sister find ways to feel better about herself, to feel beautiful. I have a scar on my knee that for ages made me sad & self conscious when I was a teenager). I never spoke to anyone about how it made me feel, I just suffered in silence. Your sister at least has you! Someone who cares soooooo much. it’s obvious.
See if she’ll talk to you or if there’s someone in her life she feels she can talk to. Here’s me owning up to how I felt about my scar (and when I made the video, I hadn’t even told my other any of this – and this was from when I was a teenager!)
re: Owning up to insecurities — my deep dark secret!
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Betty Bfn Mbugua hey cutie , just try loose some weight for me cant wear shorts so i go for short skirts ….. there is this cream i heard Queen Latifa talk about….. cant remember the name but she said the cream wud make her thighs soft thus reduce friction n darkening of her thighs……
June 2 at 2:54am via mobile · Unlike · 1 · Reply
Junejane Noah Ask your kid sister 2 rub powder between her thighs dis wil help reduce d burns n she should wear under-tides whenever she wears a free cloth like-skirt or wrapper, this wil prevent both thighs 4rm directly rubbing 2geda thereby preventin burns.. Al d same, she should feel beautiful wit or without scars.
June 2 at 2:55am via mobile · Unlike · 1 · Reply
Olivia Konadu Owusu-Ansah Vita e or there is this local cream cal angel cream
June 2 at 4:02am via mobile · Unlike · 1 · Reply
Lilian Gitau As she grows and achievs afew things focus wil shift abit fro image. However she nds to tone her thigh and they wil stay away fro each other.
June 2 at 6:58am via mobile · Unlike · 1 · Reply
Edna Lamptey its difficult but her needs to walk more although its painful it will help reduce de size of de tigh.
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